I recently saw a piece on the news about Morgan Harper Nichols. Nichols is a former college admissions counselor turned musician and artist. Her recent book, “All along you were blooming,” is a beautiful treatise to honoring who you are, regardless of the circumstances you have gone through in life.
Morgan Harper Nichols wrote this book after looking back on her journey as a late-diagnosed woman with autism. She is a mom, wife, artist, poet, musician, and storytelling app founder. …
I have done a few crazy things in my life. I’m about to share with you a story that only the closest people to me know.
Many years ago, I eloped with a boyfriend. And the elopement was the tipping point that both ended a friendship and solidified my relationship with my family.
Here’s my story:
H. and I met when we were in our mid 20’s. When we first started dating, I was getting my master’s degree and living with my parents. He was from another country and studying for his undergraduate degree.
Unfortunately, my parents hated the guy…
I recently watched an amazing video by Charisma on Command that reminded me, yet again, of how many of us are socialized to date from a young age.
This video discusses Hollywood movies and how love always seems to start with a big bang.
For example, in the movie ‘The Notebook,’ we see the ex that is willing to move heaven and earth to be with us again. Even though we have moved on and are happy with someone else. Did you ever stop to think about the mental health of a guy that will not hear the word no…
It’s exciting when you first start dating someone. You’re working to figure out if the dates could lead to something long-term. As part of that process, you might, at least once, get ‘ghosted’ by someone that you liked and saw potential with.
If you haven’t heard, ghosting is when the person you are dating stops messaging you and is unresponsive to messages or calls. They completely disappear as if they were a ghost.
It has happened to most of us at least once. I am guilty of ghosting men that I no longer saw a connection with. I’ve already written…
If you are dating, you probably have a type. And if you are not having much romantic success, I highly recommend that you try dating outside of that type. Pushing a bit outside of our comfort zones can feel uncomfortable and daunting. But it can also lead to a new awareness about the qualities that you most enjoy in a significant other. And a good way of not taking dates so seriously. You’re on a mission to meet great guys, and filter them down to the right one for you.
Here are 5 guys that I recommend dating:
It is helpful to know your own tendencies
Masculine and feminine consciousness are key forces at play in the world of dating.
Know that every single one of us carries both forms of energy. A man can lead with feminine energy, and a woman can lead with masculine energy. Both sides are needed for us to lead successful and balanced lives.
What exactly is this divine energy?
So let’s delve into what they are and where they come from. When we are born, and as we grow as young children, we are mini-sponges. Our environments are constant sources of stimuli…
Because the line thins as we get older.
When it comes to dating someone new, do you have to decide between comfort and passion? How do you know if you are being too picky with prospective dates? The short answer is, it depends. Let me give you an example from my own life.
When I first started dating post-divorce in my late 30’s, I knew what I wanted in a mate. He should be handsome, rich, tall, driven, and fun. With that decision, I entered the fairly new world of online dating. …
When I first got out there as a single woman after a divorce, I was particular with my online filters. I decided he would be a tall, alpha Indian C-suite executive around my age. Back in the ice ages when I was dating, Match.com had a feature that allowed you to restrict your matches based on income. I used this filter often to only look at men making six figures. And I did this for a while.
It did not go well. There were a ton of starts and stops. I met guys that were great on paper. But when…
I’ve been writing for Medium for a few months now. I’m nowhere near the one post a day that is recommended by so many writers. More power to those of you that are able to do this!
Over the last few months, I’ve realized there is a steep learning curve when it comes to being a writer/blogger. Here are some difficulties I encountered, and my suggestions for getting around them. It is so important to overcome these obstacles if you want to get into the elusive 6% club at Medium that earns over $100 a month.
I made a LOT of mistakes back when I was dating. Decades of bad partners, stressful situations, & traumatic moments had me failing at relationships… hard.
“Self-love” and true “kindness” were not in my vocabulary. My scarred past led to my weak relationship-building skills.
Could it be the same for your dating game?
If you’ve been in survival mode for years like I was, I suggest taking a deeper look at what that may have done to your relationship-game. Trauma is defined as ‘an emotional response to a terrible event… rape or natural disaster’ (*www.apa.org). They also state, ‘after the…